Fake pictures are one of the most annoying issues for a client. However, in my humble opinion, they are not a deal breaker. After lesson one and lesson two, welcome back to school, my slutty pupils. Today I am arguing against my philosophical nemesis, the real pictures fundamentalist school.
A few years ago…
I was starting my experimentation with escorting here in the USA. Back then, my main source was Adam4Adam. I saw an ad of a gorgeous Black man with very enticing pictures, and made an appointment. This was probably about five years ago, before the universalization of videoconferencing apps.
As it was a first time, I did not give him my exact address. He drove to my place, parked in my corner, and texted me. I walked to his car and saw that the guy seating on the wheel was not the guy in the pictures. He was hotter. He was aware that we may have a problem because insistently asked me whether or not I was sure to go on with the deal. Hell yes.
He became my first regular, a beautiful masculine chocolate muscular bottom. We continued meeting until recently.
Not long after meeting him I started submitting reviews. I told him I would love to submit a recommendation, but I would not do it as long as he kept fake pictures in his profile. He did not care, he actually preferred not to have reviews because of privacy and discretion concerns. Finally, after a couple of years of hooking up, he uploaded his real pictures and I was able to review him.
Should fake pictures be a deal breaker?
The short answer is no. The previously shared experience illustrates a situation where real picture fundamentalism would have blocked me from a lot of pleasure.
The core argument of those who disagree with my stand is about honesty. According to their school of slutty thought, using someone else’s picture is dishonest. Taking their premise further, these scholars argue that if you lie about pictures you will probably lie about everything else.
They are just wrong. Indeed using fake pictures can be a symptom of dishonesty when the intention is to mislead you. I am not speaking for those who intentionally use pictures to “bait and switch”, who are unfortunately usual occurrences. I am not saying they do not exist. They do, and they are many.
But they are not all the cases. What happened in the situation I shared above is just an example of what I have gone through many times, before videoconferencing became mainstream. Often I decided to walk away not because the guy was not the one in the pictures, but because I did not fill any attraction.
But many times I decided to go on with the deal, and had the chance to get to know these guys. In my experience they all are young, they did not go beyond high school or perhaps dropped out during their freshmen year in college, and coming from a poverty background. Most of them with very little experience escorting. All of them were smoking hot, they did not need to use fake pictures to attract clients. They used them for other reasons.
Human nature is not so simple
Once I met these hot young men I came to learn that their intention was not misleading but protecting their privacy. They did it out of discretion and fear.
The real pictures fundamentalist school of thought would argue that it does not make sense. They could cut off or fade their faces, for instance, and their privacy would be safe. The mistake of the fundamentalists is to think that we humans always act rationally, and specifically according to what they understand as rational. Yeah, one more case of the privileged ones telling how to behave to the disenfranchised.
The guys I met were afraid to be exposed, many of them lived closeted lives in an extremely homophobic environment. Fear often leads to what may seem irrational behavior. And that should be enough to discredit the fundamentalists’ argument. Whether or not their behavior is actually irrational is a matter for other debate. Of course this is a hint of where I stand for in that other debate.
Let me make this very clear. As a client, real and updated pictures in an escort profile are extremely important. I am not debating that fact. What I am debating is the easy judgmental attitude of many clients about many professionals’ motivations. Humans are very complicated beings. If you use one single variable to understand them, the chances are you are not a very good judge of character. I bet you missed the chance to meet a lot of smoking hot horny men.
Against real pictures fundamentalism, I propose a more holistic approach. Pictures are extremely important but most times they are misguiding. In very rear occasions, when I met a guy for the first time, I felt like his pictures were a fair representation. They can be photoshopped or not, they can be updated or not, but often the guy is under or over represented in the image because of photogenic considerations.
Again, pictures are extremely important, but they are just one of many stimuli to consider. Pictures do not show you the height, the breath, the skin complexion, the mannerisms, the smells, the tone of his voice, the music of his speaking, the grace of his moves. Before closing a deal, I always ask now for a videoconference call. It is way closer to a face to face meeting than just watching at still pictures. Of course, if possible, a no ties attached previous meeting is a great idea. If you are like I am, you never know how exactly chemistry will work until you are closer enough to smell each other.
A couple of disclaimers
First disclaimer: if you are an inexperienced client, I do not recommend you to explore the market niche I am addressing in this post. As I did recommend you in lessons one and two, you should stick to experienced, well reviewed, well known providers. Even if I did this experimentation in my first years hiring in the USA, I had had my first hiring season back in Argentina. I was younger and poorer, so I explored the class C escorts market in depth (class C because of their social background, not because of the quality of their performance). That experience was priceless and gave me a unique entry to the psychology of poverty. If you have no experience, avoid Adam or Backpage, and stay in Rentmen. Gain some know how and confidence before exploring more challenging waters.
Second disclaimer: interconnectivity is effecting fast and deep changes in our culture. I wonder whether or not nowadays it is possible to stay ignorant of anything you are interested in. When I did my experimentation I was constantly surprised at how little these young guys knew about sex and the sex market. My last hire from Adam was more than three years ago, now that I am older and less poor I am mostly going for the premium guys. My opinions in this post may be completely outdated, and a bunch of useless bull shit.
But that is what school is about, right?
Hasta la próxima pinga, amigos!
